I always said, “I will never go home at any point during my
service. Well, unless someone is
dying or something. But otherwise,
nope, I’ll never go home!”
Never say never.
I surprised myself and everyone at home when I decided to go home for
Christmas. Most of my Peace Corps
friends were leaving Uganda for Christmas- Zanzibar, South Africa, England,
Paris, etc. I missed everyone at
home. I had the vacation
days. So, I booked a three-week
trip back to California.
As I traveled back, I had a layover in London. The perfect layover treat: Starbucks. The line was at least 20 people long,
but totally worth it. I only got a
hot cocoa so I could still sleep on my next flight. Waiting at the end of line for my drink, the barista asked
me, “Whipped cream?” I responded
yes. “MISS, DO YOU WANT WHIPPED
CREAM?!” “Oh my god, yes
please!”
What the hell had happened? I was stunned as I walked away. Why did she yell at me? It hit me about a minute later: I had only raised my
eyebrows! Many Ugandans express
“yes” by raising their eyebrows, and maybe saying “mmmm.” It was the first clue that coming home
wouldn’t be so easy.
My first night home was my mom’s birthday. Due to my 24 hours of traveling, we did
an easy celebration of pizza at home with my brothers and Nathan. As I savored my first piece of American
pizza, I was completely overwhelmed by the rest of the table. Everyone was talking so fast and so
loud. I also didn’t really
understand what people were talking
about. I was definitely out of the
pop reference loop, the football playoff lineups, the family gossip. Everything. I was forced to vote on Grant’s new puppy’s name. Zoe, Sophie or Cami?! Backup, when did Grant decide to get a
puppy?!
My dad called Grant the next day. “How’s Chelsea doing?”
Grant’s first response: “She talks so
slow.”
Needless to say, social interactions were really difficult
at home. The best description of
myself: painfully awkward. I
talked slow and used weird phrases, like constantly saying “Sure?” as a response. All of my stories were about Peace
Corps- as foreign to other people as the Gangnam style dance was to me. I kept forgetting that everyone around
me could understand me perfectly.
“Oh god, do you see how that girl is dressed?!” SHHHHHHH… Whenever I talked to someone, I never knew what to
expect. In Uganda, social
situations are practically scripted.
It’s almost comforting because for the first few minutes, you know
exactly how your conversation will go.
In America, people were all over the place. I couldn’t figure out how I usually addressed someone. In Uganda, you always have to say Sir
or Madam. When I asked an employee
at the grocery store where I could find hot cocoa, I lingered wondering how to
even start my question.
I was absolutely freezing the entire time I was home… in
California. During the day, it was
mid 50s or 60s, and at night, it was in the 40s. I know it makes me sound like a total baby, but my toes were
numb at least 50% of the time. I
was wrapped in a blanket whenever it was somewhat appropriate. I treasured the new Uggs my mom bought
me- it was the only time my feet defrosted. My body is completely adjusted to Uganda’s heat, humidity
and sunshine.
In Uganda, the sun rises and sets at 7 pm, exactly. Many PCVs talk about how much they miss
seasons in America, but I think they forget how depressing winter sun really
is. I felt it immediately. Why is the sun setting at 4:30
PM?! The first week, I was falling
asleep at 8 PM, about four hours after the sunset. In Uganda, that would almost be 11 PM! And I would want to sleep until 10 AM,
although that’s pretty normal for me.
My body just couldn’t accept that there was limited sunshine. I couldn’t get into the habit of
planning for darkness that descended around 5 PM. I finally realized that it was safe enough to run at night,
so that helped me schedule.
SCHEDULING!
God, Americans like to have a plan. Uganda has conditioned me to roll with the flow. It’s completely acceptable to show up
two hours late or to never show up at all. Plans don’t need to made more than a few hours in advance
anyway. I always told myself that
PCVs still follow American expectations when making plans with each other. Well, we used to. I was stressed by everyone asking me
when we could hang out, see this movie, go out to dinner, etc.
It was exacerbated by texting. I would get texts, read them, then go back to whatever I was
doing. By the end of the first
week, I thought my mom was going to strangle me. “Why aren’t you responding me?!” Oh, well, I was going to respond. Texting in Uganda isn’t free- you are charged per text. So, you usually don’t text back unless
you have an answer. Plus, I wasn’t
as good texting on an iPhone as I was with T9 on my old Nokia. Also, I was completely confused by this
whole group texting. The whole
group could read my texts?!
Awesome.
Even as I’ve written this blog, I keep hearing a phrase I
repeated constantly at home.
“Well, in Uganda…” Someone
finally pointed out that I was no longer in Uganda. I became pretty frustrated with myself. What is wrong with me?! I am American, but I felt so
uncomfortable, unnatural and just weird in my own freaking country. Why was this so hard?
By the end of the three weeks, I did finally find my
groove. Nathan even said I got my
fast talking back! At my last
dinner, John-Paul asked me if I was worried about going back to Uganda. “Sure, I’m worried I’ll get hit by a
car.” (Not only to Ugandans drive
on the side of the street, but they don’t believe that pedestrians have the
right of way. In fact, the entire
system is upside down. The rule of
thumb- if something bigger than you is headed your way, better get the hell out
the way!)
I know I didn’t really answer John-Paul’s real
question. He wanted to know if it
was going to be hard for me to go back.
I kind of wanted to avoid it- for their
sakes, not mine. Yes, I was going
to miss everyone, miss my greek yogurt, a working refrigerator and hot showers,
but I wasn’t worried about coming back.
Maybe because I knew the end of my service was in sight, I could be
really positive about coming back.
In fact, I was looking forward to the Ugandan sunshine, to catch up on
Peace Corps gossip, to finishing up my projects, etc.
Physically, coming back wasn’t easy. I missed my flight in London, had to
sleep in the British Airways lounge in Dubai, arrived a day late and my bags
got lost; however, when I reported my lost luggage, I was immediately comforted
by the slow, predictable conversation.
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